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DivorceWise Newsletter
Issue 1 - ©2001 by Kari West - Garden Glories Publications
Divorce Stats and Sleep Tips

Welcome Survivor!
You are going through something profound, but you are not alone. You belong to a sacred sisterhood of survivors. Let us hear from you!

A consequence of divorce is that the old luggage you thought you had stashed away keeps falling out and flopping open. From time to time you have to resort and repack the same stuff. When a letter arrives from your former spouse. At graduations. Weddings. The birth of grandchildren. What “how to” tips work for you?

Share your story!
DivorceWise features women’s stories of overcoming betrayal and rejection, the loss of a love, a marriage, a family home, a dream.

What helped you most through your divorce? What do you want to say to other women who feel they can’t go on one more day, let alone get through one more night?

We invite your sage advice, whimsical comments and single parenting tips. Share raw pain or weathered perspective. An uplifting quotation. A financial or legal tip. Favorite scriptures verse. A poem. Bits and bytes of humor.

Kari West
P. O. Box 11692, Pleasanton, CA 94588
Let us hear from you!
Do you now these facts?
Since 1900 the divorce rate in the United States rose from 0.7 per 1000 people to 4.8 per 1000 people in 1992. Today there are 1.2 million divorces each year. (Source: Michael Gartner, “Values? What About Divorce?” Counterpoints section, USA Today, June 6, 1995, p. 13a; excerpted from the 1995 edition of Information Please Almanac)

Divorce is occurring with greater frequency among people aged 40 to 45. The number of women in that group surged from 1.5 million in 1970 to 6.1 million in 1991. (Source: Gail Sheehy, author of New Passages: Mapping Your Life Across Time.)

Help for today:
Going through a marital breakup is stressful. The majority of your energy is directed to emotionally coping with life changes. You feel mad and sad all at the same time as you try to recalculate your finances to make ends meet, find a job if you’ve never worked outside the home, or try to parent with too little energy and so many needs of your own.

You may find at the end of the day that you can’t go to sleep. It may be almost impossible to shut off the tape recorder of thoughts spinning in your brain. But getting enough sleep during this stressful period in your life is critical for physical health, mental clarity and emotional well being.

Try these tips:


Stretch out on the couch a half-hour before bedtime to listen to music.


Tuck “worry thoughts” to bed by writing them down.


Make a list of 3 simple things for which you are grateful, like a “safe place to call my own, the morning’s cup of coffee, one message on my answering machine.”.


Write a letter to God about what “really” happened today and about one good thing that might happen tomorrow.


Flip through a magazine and meditate on nature photos.


Repeat aloud the quotation that inspires or a scripture verse that encourages, such as:

Have courage for the greatest sorrow of life and patience for the small one, and when you have laboriously accomplished your daily task, go to sleep in peace. God is awake.
Victor Hugo.

The Lord will accomplish what concerns me. ---Psalm 138:8 from the New American Standard Bible.

Please stop by again soon

Please let me hear from you. I answer every letter and e-mail. Also, be encouraged to share what helped you through your divorce so others know they are not alone and that they too will survive. E-mail by Clicking Here or write Kari West, P. O. Box 11692, Pleasanton, CA 94588.

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